Living Fully by Exploring Mortality: A journey through the Best Three Months® practice with Lauren.

I’m delighted to share this conversation with Lauren, a dear friend and an incredible astrologer whose courage, insights, and presence have deeply inspired me. Lauren recently completed the Best Three Months® practice with me, a transformational and practical journey that invites us to explore our relationship with life, death, and what truly matters through the five domains of life. She entered this journey during a time of transition, seeking to live more fully and align more deeply with herself.

In this interview, I asked Lauren to reflect on her journey - what inspired her to join, the surprises she discovered along the way, the ways it transformed her life, and the insights she’ll carry forward. Her words describing her journey are honest, deeply heartfelt, and inspiring, allowing a glimpse into the profound shifts that can happen when we engage with life and mortality fully and courageously. May you be inspired by Lauren’s words and the courageous journey she took to look at her life with more intention and authenticity.

Caitlin: It was such a privilege, Lauren, to go on this journey with you, to hold and witness your process and be a part of the transformations that took place. When I invited you to consider doing the Best Three Months® practice, what inspired you to say yes? 

Lauren: Thank you! I think what inspired me most was partly curiosity and partly the desire to understand what death means to me on a deeper level. There’s something about that part of life that I’ve always been drawn to and intrigued by, but I’ve never really put myself in a position where I had to integrate it into my life and decisions. The idea of doing that sparked a curiosity in me that I wanted to follow in a big way.

Caitlin: Yes, it really seemed like good timing with the transitions happening in your life and what you were feeling ready to change. Where were you in your life, emotionally, spiritually, or practically before starting this journey?

Lauren: When I started, I thought I had a good grasp on my emotional and spiritual world, but I knew I didn’t have a good grasp on the practical side of things. That was something I wanted to prioritise. But through the practice, I discovered that I wasn’t truly stable in the other areas either. I realised I was feeling scattered, unsure of my direction in life, and thought that maybe working with death could bring me some clarity. Along the way, I uncovered some big puzzle pieces that fit together to give me a fuller understanding of myself.

Caitlin: What was it like to begin reflecting on your own death? Were there any surprises in how you responded?

Lauren: There were huge surprises along the way, like gigantic ones in every domain we explored! The only domain that didn’t surprise me was the practical one, because I knew I had work to do there and I was prepared for that, but the emotional, spiritual, and mental domains all revealed unexpected insights. The overall theme that emerged for me through the whole practice was lack of integrity. I’ve always seen myself as someone who moves through the world with integrity, but it’s easy to lose that when you don’t have a solid sense of who you are, what you believe, and what you want in life. What this whole experience has really shown me, and guided me toward, is the ability to understand what I want and who I am.

Caitlin: Yes, I get that when we step back and look at ‘how’ and 'who' we are being in our life rather than ‘what’ we are being can open some big insights to the life we actually want to be living. Exploring what integrity means to you and living an integral life is a powerful reflection. Were there other moments in the journey that deeply moved you or changed how you see your life?

Lauren: The spiritual domain surprised me the most. It showed me that I needed to solidify my beliefs, because spirituality is such a big part of my life. There’s no way I could move forward in my business or live the way I want without clarifying that part of myself. There were many profound moments, but that was probably the biggest one.

Caitlin: I really hear that the spiritual domain was a big one for you and that it was a solidifying moment. Which is really powerful and interesting because that part seems to touch your whole life and who you are. Is there anything else you want to say about that? What does “solidify my beliefs” mean to you?

Lauren: The most powerful part was realising I didn’t have a solid belief system. I had no beliefs I could stand behind fully and unwaveringly. Exploring the spiritual domain helped me understand that starting a business around astrology and tarot, for example, would never be something I could do with integrity unless I had clarity about what I truly believe. It gave me a huge feeling of excitement and curiosity to dive into that area of life, which I have been holding back in fear of what I might uncover. Going through this domain and unpacking my beliefs opened me up to self-inquiry. It laid foundations, brick by brick, for understanding myself and building the life I want. That was really profound for me.

Caitlin: I love that. Diving into your belief system with self-inquiry has helped you start being more curious about your life in an evolving way. It sounds like it solidified a part of yourself you didn’t know you needed to explore to create foundations in your life and that it is a moving target. How has that shaped your day-to-day life, your relationships, and your decisions? How has it affected your thinking about the present and the future?

Lauren: That’s a great question. The curiosity approach has opened me up to more authenticity in life. I realised I used to approach situations through the lens of fear, like the fear of causing discomfort or not being accepted. I would often shape myself to be more palatable to others. This program shifted my focus to - how do I feel in this interaction, and what do I really want from it?

It’s almost like I observe myself through interactions with life and people, gathering insight to understand who I am and what I want. This has brought a persistent sense of peace. When I act authentically, things flow better, and I feel trust that what’s in my life is there because of my authentic being, rather than orchestrating situations to please others.

It’s made a big difference in my romantic relationship, friendships, and family relationships and has permeated my life creating positive ripple effects.

Caitlin: It sounds like engaging in this process has helped you be more present in your relationships and with yourself, supporting better connections. Stepping outside of your comfort zone and embracing your fears in the name of authenticity is very courageous!  Is there anything else you’ve let go of or embraced more fully because of this journey?

Lauren: Engaging with death has helped strip away irrational fears and small-picture thinking. I’ve noticed I have less fear in my ability to make decisions and trust where they lead me, without being paralysed by “what ifs.” - like things going wrong or being imperfect. Since embracing this, my life has felt more perfect and aligned. This has been such a beautiful experience and so needed. I didn’t know I even needed it!

Caitlin: Thank you for sharing that. I can feel the powerful shifts in you that have arisen by engaging with your mortality and the feeling that the time is now! You touched on my next question, but maybe you could say more. What would you say to someone curious about the program but afraid of engaging with death? 

Lauren: I would say it’s even more important for those who are afraid to do it. Once you look at death, it becomes a source of peace. Death is the thing we fear most, yet we spend little time acknowledging it. Engaging with death through this practice isn’t easy, but it makes the experience that we are going to die far easier and provides gifts you didn’t know you needed. These gifts reframe death into something profound and beautiful and I think everyone should engage with it in this way. I really do.

Caitlin: If you had to describe the Best Three Months® in a sentence, what would it be?

Lauren: "A transformational experience that leads you to a place of peaceful acceptance."

Caitlin: I love that sentence! It’s succinct, short, and powerful. Leaning into death more deliberately creates more peace and acceptance. One last question: What’s one thing you’ll carry with you always from this experience?

Lauren: It’s hard to choose one thing because I’ve gained so much. But the word that instantly came to mind was gratitude. I’m grateful for the experience itself, the benefits it has brought, and how it’s changed my life. Bringing death into your life gives gratitude for life itself and an acceptance of just how precious and fleeting life is. Being aware of that makes you appreciate every moment and see the abundance in your life. It may sound cliché, but it’s profoundly true. I’ll always carry that gratitude with me.

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Lauren is an astrologer based in the United Kingdom. You can learn more about her services here.

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I’m deeply grateful to Lauren for sharing her reflections and the ways this journey has touched her life. Her story reminds us that when we bring death into the conversation, we often find ourselves living with more clarity, peace, and gratitude.

The Best Three Months® practice offers a gentle, supportive framework to help you explore what truly matters, both for living more fully now and for preparing with intention for the end of life.

If you feel curious to explore this work for yourself, you can learn more about my offerings here.